Shell's Sentiments

Relationships are a two-way street. That includes all types of relationships. Marriages, relationships with parents. Relationship with siblings. Or a relationship with friends. 

It takes both parties working together in order for a relationship to work. If you are the only person in the relationship constantly working towards making this relationship work. It is possible the other person doesn't value this friendship in the same manner that you value the friendship.

And that is perfectly okay. There is nothing wrong with the other person not having the same level of dedication to the relationship as you.

There is this false narrative floating around that we need to be happy all the time. 

We are being told we can't just sit back and process a unique, difficult, or bad situation. Instead, people are telling us we need to find the good. Search out the blessing. Or worse, just get over it. 

STOP, and get your mind out of the gutter. I am talking about laundry stripping. 

Have you ever heard of laundry stripping?

The first time I heard about it was back in March. I thought it was kind of silly. To me, it sounded like it was just like soaking your clothes using the soak cycle on your washing machine. But a lot more work.

We need to change the way we view asking for help. 

This topic was sparked off of a conversation with a teenager who needed to ask for help to do something.

Back story a piece of paper needed to be taken into a building and they didn't feel comfortable doing it. My suggestion was why don't you ask Jill to do it. 

Do you serve or volunteer out of a place of wanting to help or because of a nudge forcing you to do it? For fear of saying no?  Even more importantly are you serving because you are looking for a place to fit in or are you seeking approval? 

I know for me, it was the latter. I was constantly saying yes to people when I really wanted to say no. But the fear of letting people down bothered me. Then there was me trying to find my place to fit-in. And lastly only because I hate to admit it I was seeking approval from other people.