I am not going to pretend I understand the idea and fasicantion with February 14th.
People idoilze a day that someone deemed an important day to shower your “loved” ones with expensive gifts. Those gifts somehow symolize the love you have for each other?
Whether it is a heart shaped box of chocolates that are half full, and triple the cost. A stuff animal holding a heart with a mushy pick up line on it. Alternatively, a dozen flowers—exorbitantly priced, unlike other days. Let’s avoid discussing jewelry. This day is more expensive than Christmas!!!
Putting a price on your love or relationship for someone is crazy to mean. I have never been a fan of February 14th. This isn’t unusual. I simply do not understand.
From my perspective I do not want my husband to profess is love for me based on the date of a calendar. In additon, I am selfish! I don’t want to be like everyone else. I want to be special. Spoil me and love me because you want to. Don’t feel obligated.
In addition, I am not a fan of throwing money to show affection. Wealth doesn’t measure love. In society, the belief that bigger is better still prevails. Driving more financial stress into relationships than what is needed. For one stinking day! That doesn’t matter!
When we were first dating I told my now husband not to buy me anything for V Day. He didn’t think I was serious. He thought I was simply saying that to not sound materialistic. He bought me flowers, and I became upset. After the fact we talked more about the gift. I explained that he spent to much money on something that could not be enjoyed for long. Instead of spending money on me, I would much rather your time and attention. One of my love langaugaes is saving money!!
Sometimes, we commemorate this absurd holiday by purchasing discounted chocolate.
Now, for kids and this day. This baffles me more than the adult situations.
Why do elementary aged children need a dozen roses sent to school? A balloon boquet? A huge stuffed animal that has a big heart attached to it? Or a big heart shaped box of chocolates, the expensive kind of chocolate…AT SCHOOL?
I beg to ask are you really trying to show your kid how much you love them? Is this a competition amongst parents?
Futhermore, do we want to encourage the behavior of expressing your love for them in size of a gift?
While we are at it, can we stop with having young kids buying jewerly, chocolates and bears for their girl/boy friends? They are in elementary school. This isn’t going to last. Quit acting like they are in love and are about to get married soon. Let them be kids!!!!
February 14th is what you make it. Celebrate it or not it is up to you! Just remember the companies that make chocolate, stuffed bears, sell flowers and showcase the sprakly jewelry are counting on you to spend big dollars.
Tell me, what are your thoughts about this day?
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