How different would your life look if you gave yourself half as much Grace as you give others? A little love, some compassion, and umm forgiveness. Have you ever considered the fact that you don’t give yourself enough Grace? We are living in a world that is full of not enough. The consequence of that though, is we stop trying. We shut down. Or worse, we begin to diminish the qualities that make us unique. Simply put, we quit letting our own light shine. Stop. We need all the lights we can get. Otherwise, we will end up living in a dark world. How scary will that be?
Numero uno - you need to love yourself enough to fight for what you want. I am not saying go out and be ugly to other humans. What I am saying is, you need to adjust your eyes and focus on your own life and your own goals. Yes, you have made mistakes in the past. Probably terrible mistakes, but who hasn’t? Those moments do not control your future... unless you allow them to. Forgive yourself and move on. Don’t allow yourself to drown in your own self-pity. Grace, people. Why can we give Grace to others, yet when it comes to yourself it is like all of a sudden there is a shortage? Wake up, people, there is no shortage.
Here is the reality of your situation... You are one-of-a-kind. You are priceless. Absolutely, unapologetically, unique. No one on this planet can ever be you! Many can mimic, but no one will succeed.
Quit worrying about what others think about you. That's not your problem. I know that is hard, we all want to be liked. Quit fearing the outcome of every situation. Heck, I can’t count how many hours I have wasted spending energy on problems that never happen. #tonsofhours - Did you know a study shows that 80% of those problems never happen? Can you even imagine the obstacles you could conquer if you quit holding yourself back? Quit allowing fear to control your mind. Nike hit the nail on the head with 'Just Do It'. Quit doubting your ability to accomplish things. Give yourself a little grace when things don’t work out as you planned. You are worth every ounce of grace you need.
I have done a lot of personal development over the months and the topic that keeps popping up is, my life starts and ends with me. No one else makes decisions about my life. All I mean by that is, every decision I make is mine to make. If I choose to sit back and watch others work their tails off while I play, that’s on me. If I am too scared to approach someone and talk to them, that’s on me. No one else. My life, my choice. Quit blaming others for outcomes you created or allowed to play out.
The best gift you can give your future self is to work on you. Figure out what it is that you need in order to believe that you are worthy. Learn to love yourself as much as you love others. Start planting some seeds in your heart and mind so that by the time you are ready to change your seeds are ready to bloom. After a long drought, it takes a long time to rehydrate the ground with the right nutrients plants need in order to bloom to their fullest potential. Fill in the cracks with some love, kindness, and grace.
From our family to your family this Thanksgiving Season, I hope and pray that you have the best Thanksgiving ever! My favorite holiday ever -Family, Friends, Food and Football. No other expectations. It is all about the food. I am grateful for the time we get to hang together and pray that my words bless you!