In a nutshell, Valentine’s Day is all about comparing your love status with everyone else’s. It is all just a comparison game that can leave you feeling like your relationship is lacking.
Everyone seems to put a huge emphasis on this over-commercialized “holiday”. People literally invest hours upon hours, loads of energy, and tons of money for one perfect romantic evening. Proclaiming their love for each other over dinner at a fancy restaurant, over a purchase of expensive chocolates in a heart-shaped box, over a flashy piece of jewelry, or better yet on overpriced flowers that will die in a few days. Let’s not even mention the amount of time/money spent on getting ready for the said night. (hair, nails, lingerie)
But guess what? The reality is there are 364 other days of the year that your loved one needs to hear you proclaiming your love and commitment.
What would your relationship look like if you celebrated each other all year long? Imagine proclaiming your love just because. Imagine celebrating your love on your time and not having to share your day with the world. Talk about making someone feel special.
It is hard to have a committed relationship. It takes a lot of work. Relationships are not always fairy tales, roses, hugs, and kisses. There are going to be days when you want to throw the shoe at each other, quite literally, and that is life. Remember why you love each other and celebrate that all year long, on your time.
My favorite advice when talking relationships is, at the end of the day is your partner getting the best of you or your leftovers?
Quit giving your best to everyone and everything else in your life. Whether that means you spend too much time at work, too much time on your kids, too much time with friends, or too much time on social media or in front of the TV. If at the end of the day you can not build up your partner or spend quality time with them, then something on your schedule has to change.
Yes, please go to work and do your job. But at the end of the day, learn to leave work at work. What are the point of having all the money in the world, the biggest house, and most expensive cars, if the person that holds your heart is spending their life with someone who found time for them?
As for the kids, I promise they can survive without you for one night. I am not saying ignore your kids. Just make sure you make time for your spouse, as well. And, even though it’s healthy to have “me time”, you have to find balance in that area as well and make sure you aren’t spending all your time with your buddies and none with your spouse. As for social media, and TV for that matter, I get it. It is a mindless activity that takes little to no effort. Just don’t get so distracted by the noise that you forget about the people directly in front of you.
I am not against Valentine’s Day. As a matter of fact, my husband and I celebrate Valentine’s Day. We just celebrate the day after when the candy goes 50% off. My main point is to focus on what is important. The other 364 days of the year.
This year make an effort to ensure the person who holds your heart knows how valuable they are. Sacrifice a little to protect the love you have. Go do some wild and crazy activities with each other. Start a business together. My husband and I saw the biggest growth in our relationship when we did this. Step up to the next level and watch your relationship soar.