How to Get Out Of Your Own Head

Mindfulness is the practice of ‘getting out of your own head’ and of simply being rather than constantly thinking, worrying and stressing. While mindfulness is a common part of many meditative practices, it is also an integral part of cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). More specifically, mindfulness is used for ‘cognitive restructuring’ which is a tool used in CBT. The goal is to begin ‘reprogramming’ the thoughts.  

How Cognitive Restructuring Works 

The idea behind cognitive restructuring is to deconstruct a patient’s beliefs, their thought patterns and their feelings regarding certain matters in a safe manner to improve mental health. 

Cognitive restructuring is often used to help combat phobias. When someone suffers with a phobia, often they will find themselves having wild and crazy, often unimaginable thoughts regarding that trigger.  

If you’re deathly afraid of heights then, you might find yourself worrying that you’ll fall off – or even worrying that you’ll feel compelled to jump. 

In most cases, neither of these things are going to happen. 

Likewise, we have no reason to be afraid of spiders – even if we do find ourselves worrying that they might ‘jump into our mouths’. 

Cognitive behavioral therapy restructures these thoughts and beliefs and replaces them with healthier ones. 

Let’s look at the steps to get you started. 

The first step in cognitive restructuring is to assess the nature of your thoughts. This is where mindfulness comes in as an incredibly powerful tool: simply sit quietly and allow yourself to experience your thoughts as they occur, taking note of what they are and letting them drift by ‘like clouds’. 

Likewise, you might assess the kinds of thoughts you often find yourself having when you are in the situations that make you phobic. 

From there, you can then begin the process of cognitive restructuring. First start by using ‘thought challenging’, wherein you simply ask yourself how likely your beliefs are to be accurate. Are you really going to fall if there are railings to keep you safe? 

A more advanced strategy is ‘hypothesis testing’. Here, you simply test your belief through exposure to your fear. If you’re afraid of speaking in public because you think people will laugh, try purposefully allowing yourself to stutter while speaking to a large audience and see what happens. 

Finally, use more mindfulness as you go about your day to simply remind yourself of your new beliefs and to keep your heartrate low and your mind calm. 


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