Do you want something different this year?
Have you made a New Year’s Resolution?
Let me guess. Your resolutions you are going to be: 1) lose weight, 2) workout or exercise daily, and please, let’s not forget the infamous, 3) get out of debt. Those all sound like great ideas but, the reality of the situation is, only 9% of the population will make good on these new changes.
Now let me be honest, I have zero scientific evidence, but based on my own findings and opinion, the reasons we fail to succeed in New Year Resolutions are: 1) change is hard, 2) we are lazy, 3) we want outcomes without sacrificing anything (Don’t you deserve this?), 4 )we are so consumed with Social Media we can’t tell reality from a fairytale. (Heads up, all those smiling friends are full of it. They have bad days also), 5) effort is hard, 6) we do not get instant gratification, and 7) we have lost the art of determining what deserves our attention and what smothers us.
If you want to change your life this year, then do me a favor and quit. Now wait a second, let me explain.
First, quit caring what other people think. Quit investing your precious time and energy into worrying about how everyone else sees you. If you want to give your kid Elderberry Syrup go ahead, who cares what everyone else's opinion on that matter is. It is your kid!
Second, quit living your life based on the decisions of people who aren’t walking in your shoes. You and only you are responsible for your life and decisions. Yes, please seek advice but please be wary of the people whom you seek this information from. Are they really helping you or hindering you? Do they have your best interests in mind or are they trying to hold you back? Are they cheering you on or secretly hoping you’ll stumble?
Third, quit comparing yourself to every other person in the room. This goes back to social media mostly. You know who I am talking about, the pictures of the people who are always smiling, talking about how fabulous their life is, showing off all their flashy belongings. Always bragging on how wonderful their partner is. Get real! Real people have issues and problems, even in the best of relationships.
Fourth, quit hating yourself for the things you aren’t and embrace who you are. You were created with perfection in mind. If you aren’t happy you need to dig deep down inside and figure out what needs to happen to make you see your worth.
Lastly, I will leave you with this. Start paying attention to the things you invest your time and energy in. As the old saying goes, “You are what you eat” and I have learned that goes far deeper than the food we actually put into our mouths. If you are not feeding your heart and soul with emotions that fill you up with hope and give you purpose you will be left with despair and heartache. Now, I am not saying go stand in front of the mirror and recite positive affirmations to yourself, unless that is your thing, and then go for it. But really start to guard your mind, heart, and soul, as your life depends on it. And then, just be the best you that you can be. :)
Tune in next month to find out what I think about Valentine’s Day, you will be surprised!