relationships

There is this false narrative floating around that we need to be happy all the time. We are being told we can't just sit back and process a unique, difficult, or bad situation. Instead, people are telling us we need to find the good. Search out the blessing. Or worse, just get over it. 

We need to change the way we view asking for help. This topic was sparked off of a conversation with a teenager who needed to ask for help to do something.Back story a piece of paper needed to be taken into a building and they didn't feel comfortable doing it. My suggestion was why don't you ask Jill to do it. 

Do you serve or volunteer out of a place of wanting to help or because of a nudge forcing you to do it? For fear of saying no?  Even more importantly are you serving because you are looking for a place to fit in or are you seeking approval? I know for me, it was the latter. I was constantly saying yes to people when I really wanted to say no. But the fear of letting people down bothered me. Then there was me trying to find my place to fit-in. And lastly only because I hate to admit it I was seeking approval from other people.  

 I feel ya girl. If you stay in the shadows you are in your safe spot. Out of sight out of mind. I hear ya- you don't like all the attention or the fuss surrounding you. And the absolute last thing you want to do is cause a commotion by speaking your mind. Or even worse saying what's on your mind and offending someone. Then you have your worst fear acknowledged. You are abandoned. Left all alone. 

Your phone dings. You look to see who it is. You see that a friend says she is in the neighborhood and is going to drop by. Your first reaction is sheer joy! You feel incredibly special that someone is wanting to see you. You can’t wait to talk to your girlfriend. Even if it is for only a few minutes. 

The emptiness is real. The heartache cuts deep. The loneliness feels like abandonment. The tears flow freely. There is no longer any room for me.  Do the words relate to you at all? Have you ever felt that way? I know I have. But here’s the thing I have learned... all that chatter starts in your head and is plain nonsense. That is the devil playing mind games with you. And if YOU allow him to keep talking to you that way, he has won the battle. You gave him the power to win.

When was the last time you had a really good cry?I am talking about that ugly cry that you save for when you are by yourself. Ya know the one where you are crying uncontrollably. Crying so hard you can’t catch your breath. The tears are falling so fast they could fill up a swimming pool.

I am not positive how many days we have been “safer at home”. Frankly, I have lost count. I would rather focus on the days before us than dwell on the days that are behind us. ‘

Not everything in life can be measured in dollars. There is no value that you can put on a person. Much less that relationship.In a world where we base all our decisions on how much something costs an

You deserve love, happiness, compassion, and understanding in your life. Regardless of what your past entails